June 12, 2012 by Kristen
This is something that I can no longer leave unaddressed. The Christian mingle ads appear on my television. Facebook thinks that I should sign up, with its incessant ads in my sidebar. Enough is enough. Disclaimer: if you are “mingling,” this post is not intended to mock you. Well, only a little.
First came E-harmony. It had those ads with that scholarly looking Grandpa-guy adding a sense of legitimacy to the whole “internet dating” thing. Then there was Match.com and a slew of other internet dating sites. Then came…Christian Mingle. When I first saw an ad for Christian Mingle months ago, I thought it was some form of satire. I immediately googled it, thinking there was no way such a thing could be real. To my chagrin, it turned out to be a real thing.
First of all, mingle? Christian singles don’t mingle. They potluck. Have group game nights. Watch Fireproof and Facing the Giants. Seriously, a bunch of Christians on this dating site aren’t going to mingle. As they watch all their other single friends walk down the aisle, they will frantically select the most compatible option, assume this person is their Boaz or Ruth, and immediately jump into a one month courtship with a culminating proposal. Oh wait, I spoke too soon. The individuals don’t make their own selections. The Christian Mingle ads boast, “find God’s match for you.” OH. So is that how God is doing things these days? Shoot. I mean if God is the webmaster of this site, putting these matches together, who am I to argue with that? Profile made.
Furthermore, I can’t help but feel like internet dating is a little fake. Everyone picks their best picture and lists their most attractive qualities. Really, your major flaw is that you “care too much?” And you genuinely enjoy talking about your feelings and being “vulnerable?” [Note: the word “vulnerable” is my equivalent of moist. Hate it.] Maybe, I just know I wouldn’t fit in because my profile would read: “I can be passive aggressive on occasion. I tend to like my space. I talk non-stop. I can cook, but I choose not to. I still sleep with stuffed animals and sometimes they talk.” My Matches: 0.
Speaking of profile, when doing my research for this post, I became torn. Some of the boys on the site seemed pretty normal. Oh no! Was I mingling?! Had I been sucked into the extension of the church’s singles ministry and the thing that I once loathed? …nope. I have way too much pride for that. And perhaps that is a bad thing, but it’s just who I am. But what works for me, may not work for others. So, I say to all you single Christians out there. Do your thing. Mingle, if that’s what you want to do. You’ll find someone who loves you…and I’ll have my pride to keep me warm at night. You win.
Internet dating…is that legit now or still weird?
Any stories about internet dating? Success? Any Christian “minglers” out there?